K.S., Bridgeport, Conn.
I hate to be the bearer of hard (gravitational) truth, but no one who is 43 looks as if he or she is in the late 20s (or early 30s, either). And if people are telling you that you do, they are fibbing to make you feel better.
Correct your listed age. Better to underpromise and overdeliver on dating Web sites, and elsewhere, than to play it in reverse. There is also the small matter of honesty with potential mates. Why not be the youngest-looking 43-year-old on the Internet?
But I was not born yesterday (either): Online daters tell me that age shaving to the next-lower 9 (listing yourself as 39 when you are 43) is a common ploy. That way, we turn up as matches for folks who only want to date people under 40. That may be ageist of them, but it’s their loss. So why waste your time?
I know aging isn’t easy, especially when it feels as if everyone is looking for a 28-year-old. But look on the bright side: We’ll be taking advantage of those AARP group insurance discounts in no time.Read more on Correct Ages on Dating Sites…
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Many writers comment on how confidence is just about THE thing for attracting a partner. Males and females alike find confidence the most attractive quality in a potential mate. However, there is secret key to being confident. It is a key, which is rarely – if ever - mentioned.
When the topic of how to become more confident comes up the answers are often put in ways which just scare people off. People wanting to be more confident are often advised to gain it by doing a variety of things such as walking right up to people in Shopping Malls and starting a conversation with them, practice saying ‘hello’ to strangers and all that kind of thing.
To my mind, this kind of ‘help’ shows a real lack of understanding of human nature. It works for some people; but for many people the tackle-it-head-on approach misses the point and causes a lot of completely unnecessary fear and trauma.
In fact, for many people the kind of ‘helpful advice’ they are offered to become more confident actually damages what little confidence they already have. They know that they just cannot do. They cannot take the actions they are told the ‘should’ take and so they end up feeling even worse about themselves as they feel a failure before they even start.
Source http://meetyourgreens.com/m/articles/view/The-Secret-Key-to-Being-Confident
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